Tag: loneliness


About two weeks back I was feeling very demotivated and depresses. Then one of my colleagues told me a story. I am not sure where the story originated from but she said that she received it on a email once. After hearing this story I went home having peace inside me and a wonderful message. The story made me feel so good again I decided to share that story here, in my own words, as I think it will inspire you all.

Once there was a man who lived with his wife in a small town. They were very poor and the man did not have a job. They also did not have any children and they were told that his wife was unable to have children. So one day he told his wife that he had to leave. He told her that he would be gone for a long time and that he don’t know where to he might go in search of work. He asked his wife one thing, that she must stay faithful to him and wait for him, as he will do the same.

So the man left his wife and went on a journey in search of work. The road was long and he travelled for days to come. He finally reached a place where he met an old man that offered him a job. The man then told the old man not give him his money every month end, but to hold on to it until one day he will be ready to go back home. Then he will take all his money at once and go back to his wife. The old man agreed to this and the man started working for him.

Months passed and soon years started to pass by. The man worked for the old man as agreed and so continued for twenty one years. After this time the man went to the old man requesting his money and informing him that he will return home now to his wife. The old man agreed to this but he told the man that he had a proposal for him. The old man then told the man that he can give him three good guidance’s that will help him allot along the way, but if he give him this advice he will not receive his money, but should he rather take the money the old man will not give the man the guidance’s. The man was not sure what to say but out of faith he then told the old man that he wanted the guidance’s. The old man then told the man the first thing he can tell him is to go home straight and not to take any shortcuts along the way. The old man told the man that he will give him three loafs of bread and because the road will be long he must eat two of the loafs on the way, but the third loaf he must eat at home together with his wife. The old man then told the man that the second thing he can tell him, is not to be curious. Then the third thing he said that the man must not act or take decisions while being angry. The man did not fully understand how these three things will help him, but he had faith in what the old man said and so he went on the road back home, having these three loafs of bread.

After a full day of traveling the man met some stranger along the way. The stranger inquired to where he was going and when he heard that the man is going home he told him that he know a shorter road and directed the man. The man was tired and started walking the shorter way, but as he remembered the old man’s first advice, he turned back and took the original road he knew. After a long time he reached a small town and he looked for a hotel to sleep. At the hotel there were people sitting and talking of someone that was ambushed and robbed earlier that day. He then realised that should he had taken the shorter road, he would have been ambushed and robbed as well.

The man went to his room and went to bed. Late that night he heard a load scream and then there were some fighting outside. The man got up and wanted to go and see what was happening, but then he remembered the old man’s words, not to be curious. The man got back into bed and slept till the morning. That morning as he went out the owner of the hotel was surprise to see the man. The owner asked him if he did not hear the shouting during the night. The man replied that he did, but he did not go outside. The owner of the hotel told the man that he is the first one to walk out of his hotel alive. He explained that his neighbour is mad and that he will scream at night and if anyone is curious and comes outside he will kill them. The man then realised that he was alive due to the fact that he was not curious and listened to what the old man told him. From there the man took the road and travelled on further. The man arrived at his home late at night and through the open window of his house he saw his wife with a younger man. The man was combing her hair. They were talking and laughing like they knew each other for a long time. The man was furious, but remembered the old man’s words not to act while being angry.

The man ate the second loaf of bread and slept outside for the night. The next morning he entered his house. His wife was so happy to see him and wanted to hug him, but he pushed her away. He then told her that he saw her with the younger man and that he was not happy. He said to her that he remained faithful to her for the twenty one years that he was working, but she failed him. His wife then smiled and called the young man from the other room. She introduced the young man to her husband telling him that this was his father. The man was shocked and could not believe it. His wife then explained that shortly after he left the house she found out that she was pregnant. She gave birth to a boy and raised him for the time the man was away, longing for his return to introduce him to his son. The man realised that if he had acted the previous night out of anger, he might have made a big mistake in killing his own son.

From there the man sat down and explained to his wife that he did not have any money, but only the one loaf of bread. The wife was so happy that her husband was back she did not care. She took the bread and set the table for the three of them. When she wanted to cut the bread she found that it was very hard and that something is wrong with it. As she manage to break it open she found the loaf of bread was stuffed with money. As the man and his wife took the money out and counted it, they found that it was what the old man owed the man for his work and that there was even more that he was suppose to get. The man and his wife was very happy and the man realised that by trusting and having faith in what the old man told him, saved his life.

This story also teaches us to have faith and be patient. Sometimes it is worth waiting for something and receive it at the right time when you need it, than to take shortcuts to success, being curious to what other are doing and to act out of anger and frustration. All good things comes to those who wait patiently and have faith. I hope this story also give you hope in a time that you are feeling down…


The Loneliness

Someone once said: “A strong friendship doesn’t need daily conversation, doesn’t always need togetherness, as long as the relationship lives in the heart, true friends will never part…”

I think the strongest word in the quote is the word “true” that actually describe the type of friend we are talking about. True friends do not come easily and as often in your life as the other ones. I am actually sitting here today thinking of how many people I once called friends, that are no longer a part of my life. Some parted on their own way to follow their dreams and it caused us to lose contact. Others simply choose to part ways because they had better interests in life. Then there were the once I chose to part with due to moral reasons. Never the less friends came and left and some left memories behind and others just left and it is like they never existed.

Have you ever had the feeling that you are all alone in this great big world? As moments ago the thoughts of friendship invaded my mind, I had that exact feeling. The feeling of being alone and not knowing who to call this “true” friend of mine. Someone to share your most deepest secrets with. Someone to share your passions an desires with. Someone that will always be there when you need to cry. The one person that will always be happy for you when you are successful. The one that will be by your side, no matter what. Does friends like this still exist, or is it also a thing that we only read about in fairy tales and see in movies.

I have experienced it to be hard these days to make good friends. Some people are just not interested, others are so busy with their own issues that they simply don’t have space in their lives for you. No matter how nice or how friendly, polite, well mannered and sharing I am, it is never enough. Then this morning I have read a interesting article. Being a writer is to be having a gift to turn ones personal emotions, sadness and sorrow, into a form of art. We as writers write best when we are having emotions that disrupt our lives and then we turn these emotions to word art on paper. It is a nice thought to have. I am capable of making something beautiful out of something dejected. But that alone does not forage the feeling of loneliness in me. I turned to share my feelings to the world out there in my writing, but after sharing it and displaying this art that was created out of sorrow, I’m still alone.

What happened to the people in this world? Why is it so hard to find friendship, but so easy to start a fight? Is war and anger more appealing to the human eye than peace and tranquillity? I am in search of the answers to these questions and I am striving to see a change in humanity. I want to be able to call people friends instead of foe. I want people to smile and laughs and it must feel natural to them instead of asking me why I am always smiling and happy as if it’s wrong to do. Today I am sad, I am not smiling and I am feeling lost. I am writing and turning my sadness into art. I hope that my art will reach someone out there in this world, also desperately in need of comfort in knowing, you are not alone out there. We share the feeling, the need, and artistic skills of a writer. May I be a true friend to you through my writing and let my writing, at least for the moment, part your way from the loneliness.

We might not have conversations, we might not be together, but as long as my writing affects your heart, our thoughts will never part…