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Master the art of Humbleness

The art of being a humble person is an art that needs practice every day. All the provocations of this world we live in can sometimes take a grip on you without you realizing that you are in trouble of being drawn in. Drawn in to something you never thought you could be drawn into. How do we stay focused every day and keep on moving forward if there is so many things  and even people that wants to pull you back down?

Living at the cost of fearing to lose. Fearing to lose what you love, what you need and even what you enjoy. In my day to day work I meet people that sometimes lose everything they own in a moment not even controlled by them. In a moment where they are so vulnerable and never expected it. Some people lose property, some lose loved ones and others their dignity. No matter what the lost, it imposes fear among us that deprive us of allot of joy and freedom in our lives. Fear that can control the person you ought to be. Fear that takes away the ability to be the mere humble person you are. Fear that can destroy you in a way that living is no longer living and joy is a mere feeling of desire not destined for you. And having this fear in you can hold you back. Hold you back so much that you are not you anymore.

I found that positive thinking helps initiating positive action. To try and overcome fear and live a happier life, you sometimes have to let go of negativity and just keep focused on what is positive. If you gather more and more positive thoughts, it tends to turn to positive energy and turns you into the person you so long to be. All of us want to be good. All of us want to be happy. All of us can be like that if we can master the art of humbleness. Learn to strive for positivity in life and you will defeat the fear of this world. Be strong, be great, but remain humble as far as you can.

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Stilte na die storm

Ek het al baie gehoor dat iemand praat van die stilte na die storm. Spreekwoordelik word die uitdrukking gebruik na ’n moeilike tyd of bakleiery wat net ewe skielik stop en alles is verby. Dit is dan ’n tyd waar jy terug kyk na alles wat gebeur het en net bly is als is verby. Op daardie stadium is dit waar jy moet begin alles weer bymekaarsit en regstel wat deur die storm vernietig is. Wel, ek sit nou so en dink aan die verloop van my lewe. Ek dink ook terug aan al die dinge waardeur ek gegaan het en na waar ek nou vandag staan. Ek dink ek kan amper sê dat my lewe ook maar baie stormagtig was en met tye as ek gedink het die wind gaan nou lê, dan tel dit maar net weer op en die verwoesting gaan aan. So ook het ek in hierdie storm geleer om skuiling te kry en te oorleef. Die storm wat so aan gewoed het, kon my nie breek nie en ek het oorleef. Die storm het my sterk gemaak. So ook het die storm bedaar na ’n baie lang tydperk. Ek kon daarna weer terug kyk na alles wat voor my lê en rustigheid ondervind. So ook het ek bietjie vir bietjie begin om die skade wat die storm veroorsaak het te herstel. Ek het myself gevind, weer begin skryf en hardloop en net myself weer opgebou na die persoon wat ek wou wees. So ook na elke storm lê daar bome, takke en blare die wêreld vol. Dit is dan wat jy maar moet begin skoonmaak en alles weer mooimaak en op hul plek kry. Die tyd waar jy weer kan begin droom oor hoe dit kan lyk. Dan so terwyl jy al die gemors begin skoonmaak, kom jy op ’n punt waar jy weer lewe sien. Een blommetjie of blaartjie wat die storm oorleef het en soos wat die son dan nou uitkom begin blom en ’n teken van lewe en hoop gee. Ek voel tans het ek nou daardie teken van lewe gesien. Ek is vir ’n oomblik rustig, het soveel vrede en staar net in bewondering na die teken van nuwe lewe. Dit is so in ’n oomblik waar jy nie verwag het om lewe te sien nie en dan ewe skielik is dit daar voor jou. Dit is ’n oomblik wat jy besef, alles gaan weer goed wees. Jy maak alles om die blommetjie skoon. Gee water en versorg die blommetjie en bewonder dit dan dag na dag soos wat dit begin groei en mooier en mooier raak met tyd. Op daardie oomblik kry jy werklik weer motivering om die blommetjie in ’n blomtuin te verander. Dit is iets wat nie oornag kan gebeur nie en met tyd, geduld en omgee sal die blomtuin geskep word. So ook met die kennis van die storm wat alles voorheen vernietig het, kan jy dan ook nou reg voor bery en die nodige skuiling en beskerming bou sodat as daar weer ’n storm moet kom, jou blomtuin beskermd sal wees en geen storm ooit weer dit kan vernietig nie. Ons as mens gaan deur die lewe en daar gebeur baie dinge met ons. Ek het al baie mense uit moedeloosheid hoor sê, maar hoekom gebeur al die dinge met my? Hoekom kan dit nie net vir ’n slag goed gaan met my nie? Ek dink ek self het ook al baie so gevoel, maar as ek nou so tot die besef kom dat as gevolg van alles wat gebeur het, kan ek nou opreg die goeie dinge in my lewe waardeur. Ek sal weet om dit wat ek nou het te versorg en goed op te pas. Ek gaan die nodige kennis hê om dit wat ek nou kry te versorg en op te pas en te beskerm teen die storms daar buite. Die stilte na die storm is nie noodwendig die mooiste oomblik in jou lewe nie, maar dit is moontlik die begin tot ’n nuwe hoofstuk in jou lewe waar jy half van vooraf kan begin om alles reg te maak en op te bou, selfs beter as wat dit voorheen was voor die storm. En dan, as jy daardie eerste teken van lewe weer sien dan weet jy, alles gaan weer goed wees. Daar is altyd hoop. Wees sterk in die tye waar storms woed en gebruik elke oomblik om kennis op te bou in jou lewe. Weet dat die storm weer sal oorgaan en jy stilte sal vind. Gebruik dan die kennis wat jy gekry het om in hierdie stilte te herbou en dan as jy daardie teken van lewe sien, gee jou alles om dit te bewaar. Ek hoop dat my lewe, my skryfwerk en drome nog vele meer mense sal inspireer in die lewe. Ek hoop dat ek dalk ook vir iemand wat tans ’n storm beleef bietjie hoop kan gee. Wees sterk want daar is ’n doel met alles in die lewe.

 

My Foto met ‘n Oomblik…

Ek het onlangs ’n foto op Facebook gelaai met die byskrif daar by “A view and a moment to remember.” Ek plaas dan nou ook die foto hier op my blog. Ek glo almal wat die foto sien sal saamstem dat dit ’n baie mooi natuur toneel is en dat dit nogal aansluit by my vorige skryfstuk oor die verskillende blomme en natuurtonele in verskillende seisoene. Dit was dan ook die foto wat my die vorige skryfstuk laat skryf het. Buiten dat dit net ’n mooi toneel was op daardie oomblik, beteken die foto vir my baie meer. Ek praat van ’n oomblik waar ek uit staar op iets vreesliks mooi en dan ook ewe skielik net daar ’n gevoel van vreugde en geluk ervaar. Ek glo dat ek nie daardie oomblik alleen ervaar het nie en dit is amper asof daardie oomblik ’n nuwe hoofstuk in my lewensavontuur begin het. Drome wat werklikheid begin word. Lewe wat werklik begin sin maak. ’n Oomblik wat jy voel jy het alles wat jy wil hê en dat jy so gelukkig is. Die begin van ’n hoofstuk waar jy so opgewonde is van die begin af, jy kan sommer sien dat die res wat volg net nog mooier kan wees. Ek skryf baie oor drome, my benadering tot die daaglikse lewe, hoe ek altyd positief probeer dink en dan probeer ek ander mense deur dit te inspireer. Ek deel graag altyd my ondervinding van hoe ek voorberei vir iets wat ek aanpak en dan ook hoe ek suksesvol slaag in my doel. Ek het al baie geskryf oor hoe jou innerlike vrees jou kan terughou en jou keer om te waag en so ook jou van baie goeie dinge beroof. Ek was ook dae baie ongeduldig en moeg om te wag vir goeie dinge om te gebeur. Ek is vandag eintlik so bly oor die feit dat ek, “EK” is. Ek is baie bly dat ek die mens is wat ek vandag is. Ek weet ek is deur baie dinge in my lewe en ek het nie altyd verstaan hoekom ek daar deur moes gaan nie, maar al die dinge het my gevorm in die mens wat ek vandag is. Ek hou van wie ek is. Ek hou van wie ek vir ander is. Ek het vrede en geluk gevind amper in alle gebiede. My werk, my sport en my lewe is op so ’n manier dat ek nie vir beter kan vra nie. Ek het eintlik nog so baie dinge om oor te skryf. Dinge wat ek in die lewe geleer het, besluite wat sekere gevolge gehad het, maar ek sal seker nog baie geleentheid en inspirasie hê om oor al die dinge te skryf. Ek dink vir nou is daar net een groot stelling wat ek probeer maak. Moet nooit moed opgee nie… Daar is altyd iets mooi nog in die toekoms. Bly net glo daarin. Hou aan droom, hou aan vorentoe gaan en moenie dat enige iets jou terughou nie. Lewe elke dag voluit.

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Empty the Cup

As I started my run yesterday, I felt a bit lazy and decided just to take it slow and let the road lead me. I went through town not actually paying attention to the people around me. My thoughts were a mixture of what I wanted to do the coming week and what I have achieved up to now. Then as I left town, onto a quiet road, I only heard the sound of my shoes on the road. My cadence almost constant. My thought got quiet and only the sound of running, the road and nature remained. My mind was empty, and I knew I am where I wanted to be. At total harmony for that moment. I just kept on running, following the road, loving the road and enjoying the run…

It is sometimes difficult to explain to someone who is not running what that moment of peace is about. You need to experience it to understand it. It is like Bruce Lee said, first empty the cup before it can take in something new. That is exactly what a long run can do for me. That is my way of emptying my cup, to accept the new things that is coming to me the following week. It is a way of making peace with what has departed and making way to receive something new. Every person have their own way of reaching this level. No matter what sport or hobby you have, everyone do have a way of emptying their minds an just be at peace for a moment.

Always remember what you need to do to get back to that level. Always keep in mind that what happened is over and the things that might come tomorrow can be astonishing. Empty your mind, be eager to accept what comes. We are destined to achieve immensity in life. Just keep on going forward, and you will find it.

Waar daar n wil is, is daar n weg.

So sit ek dan ook nou, weereens na lang harde werk agter ’n doel gedrewe oefen plan en kry ek weer ’n tydjie om te skryf. Ek het die naweek wat verby is seker die moeilikste 21 km wedloop aangepak in die omgewing. Ek het van die begin af weggespring met ’n missie om onder twee ure klaar te maak.

So het ek omtrent twee maande terug besluit ek wil die wedloop hardloop. Ek is vertel dat dit nie maklik gaan wees nie en dat ek dit maar moet stadig vat. Stadig vat? Nee ek ken nie daardie woorde nie. Ek het begin oefen en myself gedruk tot waar ek amper nie meer kon nie. Ek het bly oefen en oefen en ek dink na amper ’n maand het ek my eerste 21 km wedloop gaan doen. Dit was ook glo ’n moeilike een, maar ek het baie goed gedoen. Vir my was dit ’n goeie toets ter voorbereiding vir die grote wat ek wou doen. ’n Paar mense het vir my gesê dat ek kan vergeet om die Sudwala 21 km onder twee ure klaar te maak. Dit was glo net te moeilik, maar ek het nie opgegee nie. Ek het bly droom, bly oefen en myself gedruk.

Die oggend sewe uur spring ek weg. Ek breek so gou moontlik uit die bondel en druk om saam die voorste atlete uit te kom. Toe ek uit is kon ek begin werk. Hard werk om my pas te hou en elke opdraand net tot bo te kom. Die eerste twee kilometers was maklik genoeg, maar toe begin die lang klim van amper ses kilometer tot bo-op die berg. Ek het net bly hardloop. Nie opgegee nie en nie terug gekyk nie. Toe ek bo-op die berg kom het ek myself begin druk om vinniger te hardloop. Daarna by die draaipunt het ek nog opdraande gehad om te hardloop, maar ek het goed gevoel en het net bly gaan en gaan. Weer terug bo-op die berg het ek ’n lang afdraande gehad tot onder. Dit klink dalk makliker, maar ek moes hard werk om my pas reg te kry en vinnig af te gaan sonder om seer te kry. En daar kom ek nader aan die einde en besef hoekom die een die moeilikste 21 km wedloop is. Opdraande wat my wil laat agteruit terug hardloop. Ek het lank gesukkel om daar uit te kom en het met myself baklei tot bo. Op die bopunt het ek die voorreg gehad om deur die Sudwala grotte te hardloop en toe was dit die afgaan weer na die eindpunt. Dieselfde opdraande wat ek op baklei het moes ek nou afgaan en elke laaste bietjie krag in my bene was nodig. As ek te vinnig gaan kry my knieë seer en te stadig is dit my bobene wat pla. Met ’n redelike vinnige pas is ek daar af en toe ek oor die wenstreep gaan en besef ek het dit onder twee ure gedoen, was dit asof ek alles vermag het wat ek wou. Dit is ’n gevoel wat ek nie kan beskryf nie. Al die harde werk was nie verniet nie. Ek het aan myself bewys dat ek dit kan doen.

Lang harde werk en ’n positiewe, maar doelgerigte benadering tot enige iets, kan net sukses oplewer. So het ek dan weereens bewys dat as jy positief en gemotiveerd bly, jy suksesvol sal wees in wat jy doen. Ek het geleer om nie na ander mense te luister nie en in myself te bly glo, tot die bitter einde toe. Mag my klein bietjie sukses almal inspireer om hulle drome uit te leef. Moet nooit sê ek kan nie want waar daar ’n wil is, is daar ’n weg.

 

Faith

About two weeks back I was feeling very demotivated and depresses. Then one of my colleagues told me a story. I am not sure where the story originated from but she said that she received it on a email once. After hearing this story I went home having peace inside me and a wonderful message. The story made me feel so good again I decided to share that story here, in my own words, as I think it will inspire you all.

Once there was a man who lived with his wife in a small town. They were very poor and the man did not have a job. They also did not have any children and they were told that his wife was unable to have children. So one day he told his wife that he had to leave. He told her that he would be gone for a long time and that he don’t know where to he might go in search of work. He asked his wife one thing, that she must stay faithful to him and wait for him, as he will do the same.

So the man left his wife and went on a journey in search of work. The road was long and he travelled for days to come. He finally reached a place where he met an old man that offered him a job. The man then told the old man not give him his money every month end, but to hold on to it until one day he will be ready to go back home. Then he will take all his money at once and go back to his wife. The old man agreed to this and the man started working for him.

Months passed and soon years started to pass by. The man worked for the old man as agreed and so continued for twenty one years. After this time the man went to the old man requesting his money and informing him that he will return home now to his wife. The old man agreed to this but he told the man that he had a proposal for him. The old man then told the man that he can give him three good guidance’s that will help him allot along the way, but if he give him this advice he will not receive his money, but should he rather take the money the old man will not give the man the guidance’s. The man was not sure what to say but out of faith he then told the old man that he wanted the guidance’s. The old man then told the man the first thing he can tell him is to go home straight and not to take any shortcuts along the way. The old man told the man that he will give him three loafs of bread and because the road will be long he must eat two of the loafs on the way, but the third loaf he must eat at home together with his wife. The old man then told the man that the second thing he can tell him, is not to be curious. Then the third thing he said that the man must not act or take decisions while being angry. The man did not fully understand how these three things will help him, but he had faith in what the old man said and so he went on the road back home, having these three loafs of bread.

After a full day of traveling the man met some stranger along the way. The stranger inquired to where he was going and when he heard that the man is going home he told him that he know a shorter road and directed the man. The man was tired and started walking the shorter way, but as he remembered the old man’s first advice, he turned back and took the original road he knew. After a long time he reached a small town and he looked for a hotel to sleep. At the hotel there were people sitting and talking of someone that was ambushed and robbed earlier that day. He then realised that should he had taken the shorter road, he would have been ambushed and robbed as well.

The man went to his room and went to bed. Late that night he heard a load scream and then there were some fighting outside. The man got up and wanted to go and see what was happening, but then he remembered the old man’s words, not to be curious. The man got back into bed and slept till the morning. That morning as he went out the owner of the hotel was surprise to see the man. The owner asked him if he did not hear the shouting during the night. The man replied that he did, but he did not go outside. The owner of the hotel told the man that he is the first one to walk out of his hotel alive. He explained that his neighbour is mad and that he will scream at night and if anyone is curious and comes outside he will kill them. The man then realised that he was alive due to the fact that he was not curious and listened to what the old man told him. From there the man took the road and travelled on further. The man arrived at his home late at night and through the open window of his house he saw his wife with a younger man. The man was combing her hair. They were talking and laughing like they knew each other for a long time. The man was furious, but remembered the old man’s words not to act while being angry.

The man ate the second loaf of bread and slept outside for the night. The next morning he entered his house. His wife was so happy to see him and wanted to hug him, but he pushed her away. He then told her that he saw her with the younger man and that he was not happy. He said to her that he remained faithful to her for the twenty one years that he was working, but she failed him. His wife then smiled and called the young man from the other room. She introduced the young man to her husband telling him that this was his father. The man was shocked and could not believe it. His wife then explained that shortly after he left the house she found out that she was pregnant. She gave birth to a boy and raised him for the time the man was away, longing for his return to introduce him to his son. The man realised that if he had acted the previous night out of anger, he might have made a big mistake in killing his own son.

From there the man sat down and explained to his wife that he did not have any money, but only the one loaf of bread. The wife was so happy that her husband was back she did not care. She took the bread and set the table for the three of them. When she wanted to cut the bread she found that it was very hard and that something is wrong with it. As she manage to break it open she found the loaf of bread was stuffed with money. As the man and his wife took the money out and counted it, they found that it was what the old man owed the man for his work and that there was even more that he was suppose to get. The man and his wife was very happy and the man realised that by trusting and having faith in what the old man told him, saved his life.

This story also teaches us to have faith and be patient. Sometimes it is worth waiting for something and receive it at the right time when you need it, than to take shortcuts to success, being curious to what other are doing and to act out of anger and frustration. All good things comes to those who wait patiently and have faith. I hope this story also give you hope in a time that you are feeling down…

Drive to Succeed

Determination, preparation and a lot of thinking. This is what most things in life is about. You can’t just one day decide to do something and do it without the proper planning. Everything you do need this and even if you have the talent to do it, you still need to prepare.

So I have done many things in my lifetime already and I intend to do so much more. The eager I have just to uplift myself and do the things I’ve always dreamed off is awe-inspiring. I wish I could have felt this way in an earlier phase of my life, because I might have achieved even more by now, but never less it do not hold me back now. With so much inspiration and determination I set out day by day to live my life to the fullest. Another great thing that I have learned is that failure along the way is not the end point, but just a focus point to show you where you need to improve. Realising this has given me even more control in my life.

There are a few things in life that is beyond our control, but that is also not the end point and if you really learn to live a focused life, you can even exceed past this obstacles in your way. Never think that it’s the end, because the end is not where you give up or stop trying, it’s where you’ve reached greatness and proved to yourself that you can. And with this a rewarding feeling comes every time you make it and you get a desire to do even more. The more you accomplish in life, the better you feel about yourself.

Being a very positive and motivated person is not always as easy as it looks. I can not believe how many people around me tries to demotivate me or to pull me down. Sometimes for no reason at all, just because my happiness is exasperating them. It is very sad to think about this in such a way, but it happens. My determination is stronger than any one can imagine. I don’t know why or how it came to be like this, but I am glad I became this strong person I am today. Yes, I also do feel sad at some times and my heart can still be broken, but I can not let it pull me down. I am strong and eager to flourish in everything I do.

Take my advice today. Never give up. Success is a great feeling.